What are your tutoring horror stories? (2 Viewers)

[Queenroot]

Well this got derailed

 

[boredofstudiesuser1]

Jesus christ I wasn't going to respond to this shit but c'mon can't you see how dumb you guys sound when you generalise things like this????? Stop being so ignorant and realise that there are MUCH better ways to discipline / change behaviour.


We as humans are all different, we are affected by things differently as a result (play of genetics and environment). So smacking a child might have either a positive effect (like apparently it had on you) or a negative effect. Don't be naive and think smacking a child results in good things all the time. Sometimes getting smacked doesn't do shit, the kid still can turn out to be an asshole.

I have my own anecdotal evidence but it doesn't mean shit because like I said it varies from person to person (just like yours doesn't).

Not just asian parents beat their kids?? Most of the older generations beat their kids. At least in my family.

See this blog about methods of changing your kid's behaviour WITHOUT beating them.

Wow bad parenting is so much more work...

"Regulate your own emotions"

 

[boredofstudiesuser1]

I think hitting kids and the effect really depends on how you do it. I knew people who would hit their kids and look like the devil in the process. THIS DOES NOT WORK!!!
If you treat it as a punishment and not as a way to take out your emotions on how you feel about what the kid did, then it will work. It's just putting heaps of anger in it that will just make the child angrier.
These sorts of punishments are also shorter and the child can reflect on what they did without wasting heaps of time in their room or 'discussing' it with their parents.
Also, kids these days are given to much freedom and choice. Despite thinking this means they can be more independent, inevitably they are relying on the beliefs and choices of people they have spent more time around. If it's not mum and dad, and it's their friends, teachers or friend's parents, they still really have an authority they listen to, just not their parents.
In addition, it's better for mum and dad to teach them than someone else.

DISCLAIMER: Most cases, this whole thing had to be read with the beginning points in mind.