Kwayera
Passive-aggressive Mod
They don't necessarily want to be married by a Church, just as a heterosexual couple can get married not in a Church. Secular marriage != civil union/defacto relationships, at least when it comes to taxation benefits, next-of-kin rights, etc.I kind of have to agree.
Several reasons why I don't understand why gays want to get married by the Church
a. Even if it is made legal, the Church officiators can still refuse to marry you. Just like they can refuse to marry a couple if they don't attend those stupid premarital counselling sessions with the priest, or just like they can refuse if you're not a Catholic but you want to get married in a Catholic Church. Canon law or whatever is still separate from our civil law.
b. Why do you want to get married by an institution that calls for your death? The Church doesn't accept you mang. It won't for a long time. Why want it? Even if you're a Christian gay, you're still not accepted.
c. Civil unions are just as binding, they still give you the title of "married" and they don't involve the bullshit Church.
d. As much as I disagree with the Church and its lunatic followers, I have to accept that the church is an institution that is very old and that has a defined moral code or what have you, that governs it. Marriage between a man and a man is strictly forbidden by the Church. I don't agree with forcing the Church to change their laws, as much as I think they're bullshit laws. If you don't like the way they do business, it's fairly easy to ignore them.
So in terms of gay marriage - I am all for the creation of a civil law that allows homosexual couples to be married by the state. I can't agree with forcing the Church, regardless of how despicable it is, to change their beliefs.
No one is asking the Churches to change their beliefs and force gay marriage on them.