so all those feelings you have for someone else is meaningless unless they are returned? sounds fucked up to me. your saying that unless it's returned it can't be called love. how do you know it's really being returned? what if they are cheating on you? so in hindsight it wasn't love it was just passion or an obsession on one side and being used on the other? what happens after breaking up? was that love or was it wrong? was it a delusion, both thinking it was love but it actually wasn't? i'd say you could love something, love is merely a delusion, a creation of the mind, an over exaggerated obsession for another person. wow great, you both feel the same for each other, good for you. but do you REALLY feel exactly the same? cause it's a degree of love/obsession for each other. you could love someone and be in a relationship where one is willing to admit they love you whilst the other wont say the words because they aren't sure yet. how about those that have obsessed over someone for 10 years, is that love? or is it only love when the other person finally notices and returns it. love isn't always equal. i've had many discussions where girls admit that they prefer the guys or themselves to love the other more. so yes, you can love even when it's not returned.