and it's a good idea to use 'to' more often than 'too' if you have to choose one of themTrippendicular said:Girls like guys who know the difference between 'to' and 'too'
Pierotte said:Then i just go "Well, you know.. and DO I HAVE TO SPELL IT OUT!!??"
Him "Hahah! Yeah, i like you too"
Hey! This is MY story! EXACTLY!!! All the thoughts and feelings and the ignoring and stuff.....Lainee said:I'm a total wimp about this business. I have a little crush on this guy who I've talked to a few times, but ever since I realised I was seriously crushing on him I haven't been able to look at him in the face... I think he thinks I don't remember who he is. Mental debate: "Do I stand a chance? Noooo, he's way too cool. But what if he likes me too? Oh my God, but what if he doesn't? Do I stand a chance...?" And it starts from the beginning again.
Ay, I'm such a wimp. How do you get past a rejection though, I'd feel so worthless (not pretty enough, not smart/funny/cool enough). I just can't deal with it like "okay, so he wasn't for me, move onto better things."
Well... he does have a hot ass. But that's like... sexual assault.
Problem is, I've been ignoring him for so long (see part where I said I can't look at his face) that I don't know how to suddenly talk to him anymore.
Doesn't help that he's aways around some attractive girls... I don't think I'm ugly, but it brings out the worst of insecurities in me: I start telling myself "I'll lose a few kgs and then I'll approach him" or "I look like hell today, I'll see if I can talk to him tomorrow"... tell me I'm crazy.
It wasn't too big for mewithoutaface said:or "waf's penis is too big" etc.
:uhhuh: :uhhuh: :uhhuh:Shell said:umm... i just tell someone that i like them. I dunno about anyone else, but i hate agonising over whether he likes me back blah blah. just telling them gets it all off your chest, then its a win win. if they dont like you back, well too bad, but at least you know, and that you don't go on living never knowing what could have been. then theres the other way, where he likes you back!! personally, i just see that as a bonus. i actually LIKE telling people that i like them. regardless of what they think
oh oh yeahur_inner_child said:Moral of the story is, have some guts and tell him. Seriously 5 years on and you tell him "did you know i use to have a crush on you?" and he'd go "SERIOUS?!?! OMG i did tooo!"
you would fucking kick yourself.
lol so what happened after that? i imagine it would just be like "OH! umm cool!!..." *really awkward silence. "so...., like can i go back inside now?"Pierotte said:Hahah i suck at doing so.
Last time went like this:
I very seriously went up to the guy and go "I have to speak to you" He smiled, so annoyed i dragged him outside.
I then just paused for ages
He was just staring at me.
Then i just go "Well, you know.. and DO I HAVE TO SPELL IT OUT!!??"
Him "Hahah! Yeah, i like you too"
Luckily he spoke retard and was patient.
If i were to go about it again i know i say id try be more forward... but well i dunno. I suck at expressing how i feel in words. That teamed up with a fear of rejection.. ugh!
Then again its not very often that u have to actully tell the guy how you feel, usually the feelings mutual and it just eventuates. Thank goodness!!
Wow.. such anti help.
Personally I would rather real life, or phone if you really can't talk to them in real life. There's just so much that can't be conveyed through the net or the phone, and it sort of demeans the whole thing (at least in my opinion) when someone hides behind the net or the phone and asks someone out.loquasagacious said:Over the phone or msn would probably be good forum for it.
Its non face to face so you will probably be more open/relaxed with each other.
Oh and perceptive guys can pick the hints, confirmation of the hints is recieved via some subtle machinations in conversation that you barely notice and now the ball is in our court - do we like you? Assuming we bothered to speculate/investigate if you liked us chances are a yes.
Having said this hints dont always work - so be blunt, tell them you like them. You cant win unless you throw your hat in the ring etc etc etc.
The absolute worst that can happen is that you are rejected which means that you dont move up. You dont move back either though rejection is merely a continuance of the status quo. So you loose nothing by having a crack.
except that everyone knows that the truth comes out when you drink....kathelle said:A note is proof!! NEVER!!
Best way is to get slightly intoxicated and go make a move That way you can blame it on the alcohol if he bars you, because you obviously didn't mean it, it was just the alcohol talking.