sk8ie_boi said:
My friend asked me this question: "How do you ask a girl out? When do you ask them out?"
Hmmz ... made me wonder at first. For me, it just came naturally ... like a slow progression haha or sometimes fast ... anyways, just wondering, do people "PLAN" to ask someone out? (As in asking them to be your girlfriend) Or just, the moment kinda thing ... it's more like "Oh, this seems like a right time to do it ... " hahaha ..
Hi Sk8ie_boi,
In that one powerful phrase -- “the daily war we have to wage with women” -- you’ve said it all right there, my friend. Because until the woman decides that you’re the greatest thing since the hamburger, you’re going to be running the gauntlet against a tribe of angry Mohawks. And remember what I always say: “Soldier, don’t ever forget that dating is a battlefield where the bloody carcasses of many good men have been left for dead.”
you were doing everything right
This is exactly the way you want to keep it, too. To you Psych majors, you want her coming on to you at all times. Don’t ask her out -- just keep her coming at you and coming at you and coming at you. You have all the time in the world. You’re not in any hurry. You’re not like all those other chimpanzees who can’t control themselves and throw themselves at her. In fact, the reason she gravitated toward you in the first place is because you were the only law student who showed a scintilla of Self-Control in her presence. I hope you realize that. And I hope you don’t forget it.
you shouldn’t have asked her out
So everything was perfect up to a certain point. But then you unraveled. You lost it. Instead of waiting her out like a real Challenge, you went and asked her out on a date. Mistake. MASSIVE MISTAKE. She should have asked you out on a date. Like my Doctor Freud once said, “When you’re dealing with a ‘10,’ you have be as crafty as she is gorgeous.”
there’s still hope
And here’s something else. You’re going to be hustling other phone numbers from all kinds of other women. You’re not going to wait for this one girl to fall in love with you. If somebody else grabs you first, she is out.
Are you being played for a fool? It’s possible. Like I say, “When you’re foolin’ with a Beautiful Woman, you don’t know where the punch is comin’ from.”
enjoy the chase
You should play along with this girl because hopefully she’s playing along with you. And if she’s playing straight with you, then you’ll move forward together.
Remember, guys: It’s always better when she chases you.
