Getting over your ex... (2 Viewers)

[Krippeld]

Okay, let's say you've just been dumped by your first ever girlfriend after ten months.
How long should the healing process last, and would it be right to use someone else to assist the process?
How long should you wait before you fall in love again?

 

[jumb]

10 months! Hahaahaha

Edit: Drink and sleep around.

 

[azzie]

meh?!
try to hate said person. it usually helps. well hate them for a few months and it usually helps u to get over them.
that being said i didnt do that

 

[Shen86d]

well.. i dont think u can do anything.. and the healing process is dependant on the person? i mean.. just let time tell..?

 

[OZGIRL86]

Okay, let's say you've just been dumped by your first ever girlfriend after ten months.
How long should the healing process last, and would it be right to use someone else to assist the process?
How long should you wait before you fall in love again?

Theres no set time for the healing process.. the healing process should last as long as you need it to. Some people may get over someone quick whilst others may take longer to heal and get over someone.
Of course It wouldn't be right to "use" someone to assist in the process.. They might get hurt in the end.

 

[thejosiekiller]

wrong- as long as u feel anything for a person u can not move on..whether u hate them or love them still.

u just have to realise theyre no longer a part of ur life, then u will only have memories and not day to day thoughts about someone- move on

edit: in reply to azzie's post

 

[Shen86d]

well nothing said here is necessarily wrong, just diff opinions and experiences?

but yeh.. using someone else is kinda slack on them.. its degrading.. and then ull feel guilt.. regret and rejection at the same time =P

 

[Shen86d]

but yeh, depends what kind of person u are krippeld =\

 

[Krippeld]

Okay, I was just thinking...there's this girl I like...if she were interested, I'd love to be with her...but I don't know if I'd be doing that just for the comfort she could offer, or because I have real feelings for her. She's a good friend, and I wouldn't want to hurt her.
It doesn't matter, because she's probably not interested. I was just wondering how long I should wait before pursuing someone new...
I hate giving things time. I was supposed to give my ex time to decide between me and this other guy, and she chose him. Waiting for things to happen sucks, it just draws out your suffering.

 

[OZGIRL86]

How long should you wait before you fall in love again?

When you fall in love its a feeling/emotion, you can't control it..
You can't say ok im gonna wait for 12 months until i fall in love now...it happens when it happens.

 

[thejosiekiller]

Okay, I was just thinking...there's this girl I like...if she were interested, I'd love to be with her...but I don't know if I'd be doing that just for the comfort she could offer, or because I have real feelings for her. She's a good friend, and I wouldn't want to hurt her.
It doesn't matter, because she's probably not interested. I was just wondering how long I should wait before pursuing someone new...
I hate giving things time. I was supposed to give my ex time to decide between me and this other guy, and she chose him. Waiting for things to happen sucks, it just draws out your suffering.

if you hate giving things time it suggests that ur already ready to move on?

waiting to move on and giving things time is about when u cant move on cause u still feel something for ur ex- but ur attracted to another girl?

 

[Krippeld]

but yeh, depends what kind of person u are krippeld =\

Umm...not a very good one...ignoring misdeeds done by me...
I'm easily manipulated (my last relationship is a good example)
I'm extremely non-confrontational, and most confrontation turns very bad for me.
I'm dependant on those around me, especially the ones I love.
I'm the sort of person who you just scoff at 'cause he got too caught up in a girl. Weak, pathetic, stubborn...that's me!

 

[azzie]

whats with boys these days neway??
my bf (of 6 mths) and i broke up before HSC, then we act all cuddly and stuff, then hes like no theres no chance we're getting back together, and he doesnt want to get with me casually either, like no strings, but hes pissed off if i like someone else or if i get with someone else?!
what on earth??

edit: we still like each other and its a mutual thing but im trying to move on

 

[OZGIRL86]

whats with boys these days neway??
my bf (of 6 mths) and i broke up before HSC, then we act all cuddly and stuff, then hes like no theres no chance we're getting back together, and he doesnt want to get with me casually either, like no strings, but hes pissed off if i like someone else or if i get with someone else?!
what on earth??

edit: we still like each other and its a mutual thing but im trying to move on

they are too confusing at times...

 

[Shen86d]

u guys shuld all srsly watch eddie murphy's "raw" .. he answers many of ur questions.. haha go download it!

lol krippeld.. man ull b fine.. waiting for things does suck.. but its what life is =|

haha azzie, its us guys.. we get jealous over stuff like that.. doesnt make sense, but its just like girls giving out confusiing signals.. whats up with that??

 

[lukebennett]

whats with boys these days neway??
my bf (of 6 mths) and i broke up before HSC, then we act all cuddly and stuff, then hes like no theres no chance we're getting back together, and he doesnt want to get with me casually either, like no strings, but hes pissed off if i like someone else or if i get with someone else?!
what on earth??

edit: we still like each other and its a mutual thing but im trying to move on

is that doug right??

 

[azzie]

damn you luke
yeah it is...
did u see us at the formal?? he was like dancing with me all and then hes cuddling me when im sitting on his lap and we were close to kissing, and he was holding my hand half the night...?

argh!

 

[lukebennett]

i thought that was hilarious. you both looked liek a couple. but not lol. oh well. hes just as confused as you are about what hes doing. hes probably not quite sure what he wants

 

[Collin]

whats with boys these days neway??
my bf (of 6 mths) and i broke up before HSC, then we act all cuddly and stuff, then hes like no theres no chance we're getting back together, and he doesnt want to get with me casually either, like no strings, but hes pissed off if i like someone else or if i get with someone else?!
what on earth??

edit: we still like each other and its a mutual thing but im trying to move on

It means he doesn't want you anymore, but he still views you as 'his'.. so he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

 

[Krippeld]

if you hate giving things time it suggests that ur already ready to move on?

waiting to move on and giving things time is about when u cant move on cause u still feel something for ur ex- but ur attracted to another girl?

The other day my ex basically told me to fuck off...although she did that several times during our relationship, too...she hates me now...she gave me a Christmas present just to get to me...so she could say I don't deserve it...
I don't want to wait because I can't take the wait. I want her to either come back to me, or for the next phase of my life to start.
I'm not over her. I want someone to hold me, and tell me they love me, and make me feel like I'm worth anything.