Friends with benefits (4 Viewers)

shane-o · Aug 16, 2006

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The guy seems to like your friend. But he may just be using her for sex you never know. I was kinda like that with my current gf. We were hooking up all the time and after a few months I realised that I may be in love with her so I asked her out and we went from there.

1. Dont know. Maybe clothes? Always comes in handy. Mix tape of your favourite songs on a cd? ipod? me and my gf had been 'seeing eachother' for about 5 months and she got me 2 shirts and a mix tape and that was good enough for me. Its the thought that counts!
2. Doctor I guess? or like a medical centre? I dont know much about the pill.
3. If the guys mature, he'll be man enough to handle his girl having her period. No big deal. Every girl has em once a month right?

kayti · Aug 16, 2006

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Been in this situation. Started regularly sleeping with a long-time friend (of six years), which continued for six months. I would advise your friend to talk to this guy ASAP regarding where they stand with one another and establish whether they are a couple or whether this is just a casual thing. Do not continue the relationship as it is if she starts to believe that she has even the tiniest bit of romantic feeling toward him. Humans are not machines and they cannot suppress their feelings, no matter how hard they may try. I tried not to get attached and convinced myself that I could handle such a relationship, but in the end it all blew up in my face. He moved onto a real relationship and left me heartbroken and feeling used and abused, and the whole experience left our relationship extremely shaky. With work and time, we managed to become friends again but it taught me the biggest lesson of my life. Tell your friend not to compromise her feelings if she wants more from him, and she should definitely talk to him ASAP.

In response to your last question, do guys get grossed out about girls' periods, the answer SHOULD be no and if your guy does, then he's obviously too immature to be in a relationship. I've had my period arrive whilst having sex without realising until afterwards, when we discovered it all over the sheets and ourselves. Not a great situation, but the truth is, if you're mature enough to be having sex, you should be mature enough to handle all the dirty, embarrassing things that come with it.

pinkicecubes · Aug 19, 2006

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Thanks for your responses

Much appreciated!

I hope your feeling better about it all now kayti!

Serius · Aug 20, 2006

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you can tell him when you are on your period just please dont go into details and dont talk about it whilst iam eating something. Also unless it needs to be said i.e " we cant have sex now, iam on my period" then there isnt really a reason to bring it up, so just dont.

*hopeful* · Aug 20, 2006

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tell ur friend not to give the guy some for a while and see if he still acts the same towards her

pinkicecubes · Aug 21, 2006

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*hopeful* said:
tell ur friend not to give the guy some for a while and see if he still acts the same towards her

She hasn't seen him for around a week and a bit and he's bombarding her with questions like when he can see her at least twice every day. He seems to always be busy on the days SHE wants to go see him from herself as well. He only see's her on the days he wants to. hmm

Another thing is that he only ever wants to see her during the night. He only works on weekends and does jack shit on weekdays - goes out to see mates, sleeps and whatever.

My bf thinks he's just using her for sex so we gave her the 'you deserve so much better' talk and I think she's going to stop seeing him if he doesn't act the same towards her after she refuses to sleep with him.

ice ken · Aug 21, 2006

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Komaticom said:
He sounds like a bum. See how he reacts to no contact for a month or so.

lol yer wat else do they do?

vern · Aug 21, 2006

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I prefer relationship personally, each too his own though.

*hopeful* · Aug 21, 2006

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pinkicecubes said:
She hasn't seen him for around a week and a bit and he's bombarding her with questions like when he can see her at least twice every day. He seems to always be busy on the days SHE wants to go see him from herself as well. He only see's her on the days he wants to. hmm

Another thing is that he only ever wants to see her during the night. He only works on weekends and does jack shit on weekdays - goes out to see mates, sleeps and whatever.

My bf thinks he's just using her for sex so we gave her the 'you deserve so much better' talk and I think she's going to stop seeing him if he doesn't act the same towards her after she refuses to sleep with him.

ur friend needs to really make her point otherwise he'll just keep using her.....

gigglinJess · Sep 18, 2008

Friends with Benefits: Can it ever work?

Discuss

gigglinJess · Sep 19, 2008

Re: Friends with Benefits: Can it ever work?

I've been thinking about his lately.

I don't really want a bf, but I really would like to be able to satisfy those urges.

Do you think that this will only turn out disasterous?

Bainesy · Sep 19, 2008

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just find a good friend who also needs to satisfy those urges and come to an agreement where you do it every so often and you both understand that it is just sex and nothing more

it shouldnt be hard to find, a lot of guys would agree

HalcyonSky · Sep 19, 2008