Original_Angel said:
maturity.. if only.. i think it's just hesitation.. cuz im so scared! aha.. but i guess it's good to be scared about things like these.. well once in a while anyway!!
ahh well..
.. still confused ..
sweetie, if you're still unsure/scared try something like this:
1. fool around with him. alot. make sure you're both comfortable with each other's bodies, and what you each like and dislike sexually.
2. if you're content enjoying everything other than penetrative sex, leave it at that. once you leave your virgin club membership at the door, there's no going back.
3. if you decide you want to have sex, make sure you both talk about it beforehand. know what your boundaries are.
4. get protection. plan to have sex in a place where you will uninterrupted and comfortable. having your mum or dad walk in on you halfway through will make it memorable for all the wrong reasons!
5. know what to do if something goes wrong. any "accidents" that happen during sex (ie. the condom breaking, etc) have a solution. don't panic.
6. be prepared. for your first time it might hurt. plenty of lube and lots of foreplay will help.
i will say for sure, make sure you're having sex for the right reasons. sex will not do anything to save a relationship or make someone fall in love with you. don't have sex because your bf/gf is pressuring you. by all means, have sex with the person you love, but don't rely on it as an expression of devotion.
above all, have fun! no one has perfect sex all the time. it's messy, sweaty and sometimes hilarious. remember, practice makes perfect! well not really, but it can make a pretty good time ALOT more fun. *wink wink, nudge nudge, say-no-more*