Can't get over it... (3 Viewers)

[puglover]

oi, im the one that did everything..
i first asked him out, im the one that asked if he wanted to make out, im also the one that ended it.

want it to remain ended but having trouble doing so..
because he keeps saying that he will change, what can he change about himself.
yatta yatta buying me chocolates.
then seeing him, and trying to not kiss him.

 

[AsyLum]

^^ Lay it out, if you want to make this work, you gotta face up to the truth and figure out your emotions.

 

[puglover]

if there was absolutely no feelings, i wouldnt have asked him out in the first place.

 

[puglover]

you gotta face up to the truth and figure out your emotions.

have been doing that since the day i met him.
it got to the point were i didnt wanna do that to him...

this would be so much easier if the guy hated my guts.

 

[alby]

this would be so much easier if the guy hated my guts.

he's your best friend, i dont think it'd be that good or easy if he did

 

[puglover]

he's your best friend, i dont think it'd be that good or easy if he did

yeah your right on this one.

but how do i make him get over me? =/

 

[alby]

work out where you actually stand first...by the sounds of things you dont know yet, and you need to know before you plead him to get over you

 

[puglover]

how the heck do i do that.. somebody please tell me, im all ears.

 

[AsyLum]

We can't tell you, you gotta figure this shit out yourself, this is all part of relationships.

 

[puglover]

damn.

well what i have done in the past is stupid.
and think im doing the right thing by getting some space from him.

but seriously,
i wanna do the bridget jones diary thing right now..
eat ice cream and run around in my undies.
that is so incredibly tempting.

 

[cerpin taxt]

then do it. just don't film it.

what asy said is right. you've got to look at yourself and work out where you are/what you feel before you can go any further. rastafarians suggest the reefer. i suggest talking it through with someone who doesn't know this guy.

 

[puglover]

yeah maybe i need to see somebody maybe that will help =/

 

[tlodg]

you still love him

 

[puglover]

and what makes you say that?


if i am looking at other people that cant be good.

 

[tlodg]

Sleeping with another guy....
it's more the physical part

Sometimes when people are sad they do things purposely that's opposite to what they want
so they think they can feel better

From what I read I think you still love him, but hey,
what do I know.

 

[Testpilot]

If you were my GF i'd want you to lay the situation out on the table. To tell me everything.

But doing this might hurt him, but I think it must be done, if you want to have any future with him (friendship/relationship). He'll need his time and space, so don't crowd him.

Before doing anything you should gather your feelings first!

Finally, be prepared for him to wash his hands of you due to your actions.

 

[AsyLum]

Lay it out, or you'll risk him just drifting away, theres only so much someone can stand before they click out of their wallowing self-pity and just go 'fuck this' and move on. If you want to avoid that, go talk to him, and give him the gist of it, you'll have a better chance.

 

[puglover]

=/ to make things worse i crashed my car.

so lets see ..
i've broken up with my bf, crashed my car and am trying to complete my vce.

damn.

life is the shits, i really just wanna go cry in a corner...
but im sick of doing that..
i'll just grit my teeth and try and laugh it all off...

and i have learnt one thing, since being with him..
is that aswell as him being my boyfriend, he is also my best mate.. so
in the end i end up telling him everything anyways .

except, i dont want to tell anybody i slept with this random. nobody. its something i rather keep in the dark for the rest of my life. because it was dumb, stupid and not important. and i was sorta broken up with him when i did. i just dont want to tell anyone. i dont even want to tell myself. i rather just forget it happened... and it isnt an issue, because i am never going to do it again.. was stupid... because i was not used drinking.. was hugely valnerable (sp?) .. but i wont deny the fact what i did was hugely stupid. im just glad i recognised it... because i know that i am worth a hell of a lot more then some random at a bar.

 

[AsyLum]

If you slept with him, its fine, I think a few people 'sleep' with them, rather than just fuck them.

Its not as uncommon an occurrence as you make it sound. Yeah, thats probably the hardest part about someone who was a friend to begin with, they are your shoulder to lean on, and breaking that off is very difficult. So stop the self-pity and wallowing, and just get on with telling him about where you stand and get it done with.

 

[puglover]

yeah already did.
and he didnt take it well at all..
well the first time he didnt really understand break up...
the first thing back he said was.. "i love you" =/

cause he went out and bought me chocolates, i think an excuse to see me yatta yatta...
rocked up at my house a few times ( i hid and grabbed my mum on the way lmao)..
and felt so guilty about that...
and then the second time i talked to him..
he some what got the idea.. and said "maybe we should have a break"
then i felt like a bitch cause i said, "maybe we should just cut the thread"

anyways..
i have vce to concentrate on..
i have an english practice exam...

but gosh...
my neck hurts...from car crash
trying to not stress out...

ok hun, seriously whats some good music?
love music just makes me all sad...

i need some sort of "i hate relationships, everything is gonna work out" eventually type music

thanks for helping me through this shit,
Beck