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Conservative cyber-hate
As the mainstream media moves away from the topic of gay marriage, conservative Web sites continue to preach hate
By Thom Metzger
An Advocate.com exclusive posted July 9, 2004
Conservatives have carved out a rather large section of the cyberuniverse—a cyber--“big tent” where even the nuttier elements of their ilk converse without the rather liberal restraint of their talk-radio, Fox News, and Washington Times cousins. As a Republican in recovery, I still find it interesting to monitor these online musings. My partner thinks I need to go cold turkey, as some of the worst sites—that are home to outright homo haters—have a tendency to make me pretty depressed. Nevertheless, because I live in a gay-friendly neighborhood in a largely gay-friendly city, I think that it’s important to keep my finger on the pulse of the worst of “real” America. Understanding what our enemies are saying about us reminds me how far we have to go and how we cannot be complacent.
It should not surprise anyone that these sites have concentrated on the faults of Senator Kerry and the importance of the war in Iraq in recent months. However, it might be somewhat surprising that a close third has been the amount of attention that has been given to gay issues...especially gay marriage. Many of the conservative sites contain at least one antigay article or post during the average day.
It is true that the mainstream media also gave gay marriage attention when gay and lesbian couples were lining up in San Francisco, Portland, Ore., New Paltz, N.Y., and Provincetown, Mass. When is the last time you saw the issue reported on CNN or in your daily paper? These wider-audience journalists have largely moved on, leaving the details of the various legal appeals to be reported primarily in the gay and rabidly conservative presses.
The average gay man or lesbian, who probably isn’t an avid reader of the National Review or TownHall.com, might mistakenly think that the issue has fallen completely off America’s radar screen. We need to understand that it hasn’t—and that some of the reporting is just plain ugly.
The queen of gay-marriage-is-causing-the-sky-to-fall parade is Maggie Gallagher. Her site—marriagedebate.com—purports to be a neutral online home for discussion about the issue. Unfortunately, her personal bias isn’t subtle, as she claims that any legal recognition of gay and lesbian relationships will usher in the apocalypse.
TownHall.com, a site that publishes the “best of” conservative commentary on a daily basis, features its daily anti-gay-marriage screed. The pieces largely are impossible to differentiate. Like hate-filled Mad Libs, the various authors recycle the same shrill warning to their good, God-fearing, red-state-inhabiting readers: “Once gay marriage is legalized throughout America, your (positive adjective) (noun) will be forced to accept (negative adjective) (noun).” The slippery-slope favorites include polygamy, bestiality, mandatory gay scouting, and witchcraft. Some authors of these items take really creative leaps, asking their readers to imagine a day soon when Christianity will be illegal. One article recently suggested that the government literally would need to steal children from good heterosexual parents to feed the insatiable demand for gay and lesbian couples to adopt. Rosie and Kelly better start planning a lot more cruises for gay families.
National Review’s Web site has been home to nearly a dozen pseudoscience rants from Stanley Kurtz, who would have his readers believe that gay marriages (or civil unions) are responsible for just about every social ill in Europe. Every few weeks he has highlighted a new threat in a different Scandinavian country and warned ominously that it can happen here. His theme could be summed up as: If gay unions are recognized in the United States, it is only a matter of hours before we all will be forced to speak Esperanto and use the Euro as our official currency!
Andrew Sullivan, one of the few remaining gay voices in the conservative wilderness, needs to be extolled for trying to beat back this flood of hate. His daily online blog (AndrewSullivan.com) dissects some of the most ridiculous arguments. His very vocal opposition has been important because his readers are a largely straight and very conservative crowd. It is a shame that some of his supporters have begun to voice their irritation that he is “obsessed” with the marriage issue. A week ago, when a National Review editor publicized the fact that Sullivan had questioned his support of President Bush (in a piece in The Advocate), the conservative online world finally became impatient with his “preaching,” and blog after blog became littered with “I hate (insert antigay epithet) like Sullivan” posts.
However, gay men and lesbians are very Web savvy. Just like we are happy to take over a rough block of urban real estate, we need to move into this rather inhospitable online neighborhood. We need to add our voices to these online blogs—we need to rain e-mail responses on the authors of the worst commentaries. We need to hold the quasi-mainstream conservative press accountable by calling and e-mailing Dr. Laura, Rush, O’Reilly and anyone else who will listen. We may not change the commentators’ minds, but their listeners may not be lost causes.
Conservatives are beginning to prepare for the July 12 U.S. Senate vote on the Federal Marriage Amendment. They are sharing their rather absurd opinions about our lives with anyone who will listen. Let’s make sure that they aren’t allowed to have a one-sided debate.
Thom Metzger directs communications and media relations activities for a trade association. He lives with his partner of 13 years in Washington, D.C., where he likely spends too much time surfing the Web. He can be reached at
thomasmetzger@starpower.net.