Are you too shy to approach a girl / guy? Ideas? (1 Viewer)

[Vangineer]

Just wondering who is.

I havnt attempted to ask out a girl in a while, cause of year 6 incident that gave me scorching nitemares ^_^

 

[Paroissien]

Just do it. You are never going to improve your technique if you never give it a shot

 

[shiny]

Never ever EVER wait around for something to happen. If you want it, then do it.
Otherwise, it'll be one of those many-year-sad-stories that will leave you in nothing but bad memories.

 

[val_dramaqueen]

ive done it a couple of times now and have been rejected everytime...

its a shit situation to be in... but at least when you make a move, you know where you stand (except in my case where i got rejected, he still wnated to be friends but still continues to flirt)

im the love pessimist of this site now, so basically, my advice... NEVER MAKE A MOVE!

 

[slinky]

make a move dude, yor gonna regret it heaps later.

"Years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do."

thats a fukn good quote, made me think about the things i should have done.

 

[twiddla]

Fears are almost always imagined!

 

[SashatheMan]

IF you still shy on making a move, and know yuo will mumble and twitch when u talk to her. Have a few beers before and yuor confidence climbs up and up.

 

[LoneShadow]

make a move dude, yor gonna regret it heaps later.

"Years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do."

thats a fukn good quote, made me think about the things i should have done.

have never asked out a girl...never had the guts to do so...toooooooooooooooo shy.


but.....back to dat quote.....thnx mate...I am going to do what I always feared doing..............killing my neighbours dog...he's making too much noise and doesnt like me either.......*grabs gun and goes outa door*

 

[loquasagacious]

You will live a life of regrets if you never approach someone.

Stop thinking about it because thinking leads to worry, and just do it. The worst that can happen is rejection in which case you end up where you were to begin with. Sure it's not a win-win situation but its a win-hold situation.

You have nothing to loose and everything to gain.

Apologies to Karl Marx, Frederik Engels and the Communists/socialist movement as a whole.

 

[beer goggles]

well heres my idea

bite the bullet and approach the girl

i know a 45 year old man that is still too afraid to talk to women, its pathetic

if u wanna end up like that, keep cocooning urself...........i myself used to be the same, now im not coz i bit the bullet and learnt that girls are human too and arent there to shut u down

so bite the bullet, go with it

the worst that can happen is u get rejected, and there are plenty more fish in the sea.........its better to be rejected than to be in the dark anyway, so u really hav nothing to lose

 

[moon_styla]

wat if you're REALLY REALLY scared of rejection?

 

[LazyBoy]

i used to be exactly the same too shy to go up to talk to someone causei had no idea what to say. just go up and introduce yourself. Who cares if its weird? or if you get rejected? you feel alot better for having tried.

 

[beer goggles]

then you need to work on your self esteem.

have a few drinks first, then you wont worry as much, thats a scientific fact. then once youve ''approached'' a girl and found out that they're people 2........ur confidence will grow and eventually you'll reach the point where you no longer need drinks 2 approach a girl, and ur self esteem & confidence iwll grow, and u wont be as scared of rejection anymore

orrrrrr you could continue to hide in a cocoon your whole life and sing along to what about me, coz ur 'such a nice guy' but 'none of the girls will talk to me' ------ a lot of the time the girls are waiting 4 u 2 approach them, and if u dont they'll think u dont like their looks or something, and then walk away

i suggest u just down a few beers, go up and approach the girl - in a non stalkerish way - and just stop worrying, have a good time

u might be surprised with what you find.

 

[beer goggles]

i used to be exactly the same too shy to go up to talk to someone causei had no idea what to say. just go up and introduce yourself. Who cares if its weird? or if you get rejected? you feel alot better for having tried.

yeah i was the same............lots of people were/are

i still cant think of things to say half the time, but u do feel a lot better having tried its quite true........and as ive been trying more nad more often, my success rate has gone up heaps

gotta be in it to win it buddy

 

[mmm_sofay]

develop a fear of commitment.

 

[soha]

how cute...yr 6 incident
ur never gonna overcome your fears until you face them

 

[LazyBoy]

my sentiments exactly. lifes too short, the more you try the better you get at it. Another tip, dont go up trying to pickup... go up to her/him/them trying to make new friends.

 

[beer goggles]

yea

then the picking up and evrythin will happn naturally if its going 2

 

[LazyBoy]

saddest thing ive ever seen in my life was this. i went out with my friends who are all really shy. one of them, i.e the shyest was minding the table, he wouldnt talk to anyone around him cause of his shyness. Two guys went up to chat with him, they later told me they felt sorry for him. and get this one of the guys was on day release from prison. Now thats bad, when someone who has to go to jail the next day feels sorry for you!

Another tip: alchohol is good. aka liquid courage. (although not for my friend lol)

 

[beer goggles]

saddest thing ive ever seen in my life was this. i went out with my friends who are all really shy. one of them, i.e the shyest was minding the table, he wouldnt talk to anyone around him cause of his shyness. Two guys went up to chat with him, they later told me they felt sorry for him. and get this one of the guys was on day release from prison. Now thats bad, when someone who has to go to jail the next day feels sorry for you!

Another tip: alchohol is good. aka liquid courage. (although not for my friend lol)

im not too sure why u just said that, theres no point dragging you or your mates down

but yea alcohol works wonders, i confirmed that yet again last night and plan on doing it again 2nite