Any Asian girls whose parents are against them dating "Westerners"? (1 Viewer)

[Cykologi_gal]

Is this a prob for any other Chinese/Asian girls here? OR am I the only one?????

 

[AntiHyper]

I think your parents are bigots or intolerant.

 

[RiCkiE]

Well i'm a guy and my parents don't like me dating western girls but like it matters, really.

 

[angmor]

why are they against them?

 

[RiCkiE]

with my parents it's because of the cultural difference and the "difficulty" they'll have in relating to one another.

 

[azzie]

My parents are Croatians and they'd like me to date or marry a Croatian guy. But like that'd happen anyway.

It's a cultural thing- parents think the path of least resistance is with someone of your own culture/background. Some parents see it as a security thing, especially when they themselves have come from that culture/background to another. They feel that their child will be best protected by someone who is from the same country/race etc.

 

[Not-That-Bright]

I wonder what the reaction in this thread would be to a white girl saying 'Any White girls whose parents are against them dating Asians?'

 

[MikiRei]

Lol - my parents PREFER I date Asians, but they've pretty much have themselves geared up and ready for the day I walk in with a Western but to be honest, I know they 200% prefer me marrying an Asian. Lol as....

 

[sunjet]

This thread is racist. Mixes are hotter anyway.

 

[lengy]

Stupid thread title.

 

[wheredanton]

I wonder what the reaction in this thread would be to a white girl saying 'Any White girls whose parents are against them dating Asians?'

I think alot of families would tell their children that, if not implicitly. Regardless I don't think many white girls are strongly attracted to asian guys, so the whole problem soughts its self out anyways.

 

[karoooh]

My dad does, more so than mum, but like his opinion matters anyway.

Mum would prefer it, but she'd want, even more so, for us to be happy and for the guy not to be a fucking bastard. That and because she's gotten used to the fact that my sister is in a long-term relationship with a white guy and that her opinions on the guy/s that I'll date in the future won't factor extremely prominently.

 

[sja]

i think you're fucked

 

[ujuphleg]

To everyone in this thread, its a legitimate question because whilst my parents are (thankfully) not THAT strict (I mean, they are strict but they aren't that moronic) there are a heap of girls out there whose parents will only approve of them dating other asians.

azzie put it best - the parents want people of the same culture because they think that that will ensure the best possible outcome for them.

My parent attitude is that its far more important for me to be a) happy and b) find someone with similar "morals" rather than of exactly the same culture, which doesn't always equate to the same morals.

Eg. I'm far more suited to an Australian boy then I would be to a traditional Chinese boy who (to stereotype) would expect me to stay at home barefoot and pregnant forever. And I'll probably have far less problems with the in-laws etc.

And they define morals as things like the same outlook on money, family, career, caring for elderly, children etc.

 

[karoooh]

i think you're fucked

What have I said that made you think I'm 'fucked'?

 

[RiCkiE]

This is going to turn into another "Interracial Relationships" thread isn't it.:mad1:

 

[RiCkiE]

Why does she hate them?

 

[karoooh]

To everyone in this thread, its a legitimate question because whilst my parents are (thankfully) not THAT strict (I mean, they are strict but they aren't that moronic) there are a heap of girls out there whose parents will only approve of them dating other asians.

azzie put it best - the parents want people of the same culture because they think that that will ensure the best possible outcome for them.

My parent attitude is that its far more important for me to be a) happy and b) find someone with similar "morals" rather than of exactly the same culture, which doesn't always equate to the same morals.

Eg. I'm far more suited to an Australian boy then I would be to a traditional Chinese boy who (to stereotype) would expect me to stay at home barefoot and pregnant forever. And I'll probably have far less problems with the in-laws etc.

And they define morals as things like the same outlook on money, family, career, caring for elderly, children etc.

Meh too.

 

[Nakashima]

My parents are now quite open-minded. I doubt they'd mind if I had a white boyfriend. The only thing would be they can only communicate with him in english.

Then again, my boyfriend who's Asian can't speak chinese so they speak english to him anyway.

 

[littlewing69]

Yay racism.