Do guys expect this in a relationship? (1 Viewer)

[pony_magician]

I know that females are just as capable as males in seeking sexual gratification, I mean, humans aren't asexual and we're quite literally controlled by our hormones. I was not, at all, suggesting it was one sided. Some gurlz are just as bad as doodz

I think sex is one factor, but ultimately isn't it kind of the emotional/spiritual connection you have with someone? You can have sex with anyone, but the emotional element to a relationship is what differentiates "just friends" from "couple".

Sex surely can't be the only, and ultimate thing that differentiates ~friends~ from being a ~couple~
You can't say you're a close to your friends or even your close friends, than you are to your boyfriend/girlfriend.

/sheltered asian girl

no i'm not saying the only difference between friends and boyfriends/girlfriends/catfriends/horsefriends/whateveryou'reintofriends is sex, but it is fair for someone to want sex in a relationship. not rape or whatever, but it is fair enough for someone to want sex out of a relationship, which is what i was trying to say before.

guys and girls both want sex. it's understandable for someone to want sex.

(keep in mind that i'm not interested in sex and stuff-- i'm just being realistic)

((EDIT: Rereading this I say the same thing about a million times, but

basically, it's not ridiculous or disgusting or outrageous or whatever for a man/woman to expect sex in a relationship.

basically what ebony said

so basically the only difference between your friends and your boyfriend is that you have sex with your boyfriend? youre doing relationships wrong

thnx for ur advice

 

[Ivorytw]

If a guy isn't willing to wait for you to be comfortable enough to engage in sex with him, it gives you an insight into the type of person he is doesn't it

The length of time shouldn't matter and he should realise that pressuring his partner into something that she wasn't ready for, regardless of what that is, is deplorable.

But it's still perfectly reasonable for him to end the relationship because of this. Just because she isn't ready doesn't necessarily mean he should be judged with bad character for expecting sex in his relationship.

 

[Riproot]

Okay so let's say your a virgin and your with your boyfriend and your going through the whole im scared not sure phase, how long would a guy wait for you to be ready before he dummped yo ass?

Did not see this earlier.

If this was the type of situation I was put in I would wait. That's completely different to the whole "I just don't wanna do it", "I'm xian", etc. stuff.

 

[Riproot]

so basically the only difference between your friends and your boyfriend is that you have sex with your boyfriend? youre doing relationships wrong

Also did not see this earlier.

"EVERYONE IS DOING RELATIONSHIPS WRONG EXCEPT ME!!!"

*Entertain jokes with Shadowdude about dating*

*Found dead in a ditch*

 

[MrFox]

it's really not, if she does, poor you, because I would assume that she's too easy and you won't even going to be in a relationship with her lol

let me guess...your motto is

nothing that's easy is worth doing

no?

So you're saying that a girl who is willing to have sex on the first date is not easy? It's just my view

i hate when people try to use the 'it's my opinion!!!1!!' line as a get out of jail free card
no. just, no.

I think if you adamantly don't want sex then some part of you is lying to yourself, because it's natural, normal and healthy to want sex.

that's not necessarily true

so basically the only difference between your friends and your boyfriend is that you have sex with your boyfriend? youre doing relationships wrong

lol!!!!!111 omg!!!!!!!!!


no.

Haha shadowdude getting all riled up.

he has a point though.


@OP: yes i do expect sex out of the relationship, no i wouldn't rush them, no i wouldn't leave them if they needed to wait. the length of time i would expect it by would depend on the person i'm with.

 

[ZombieApocalypse]

no i'm not saying the only difference between friends and boyfriends/girlfriends/catfriends/horsefriends/whateveryou'reintofriends is sex, but it is fair for someone to want sex in a relationship. not rape or whatever, but it is fair enough for someone to want sex out of a relationship, which is what i was trying to say before.

guys and girls both want sex. it's understandable for someone to want sex.

(keep in mind that i'm not interested in sex and stuff-- i'm just being realistic)

((EDIT: Rereading this I say the same thing about a million times, but

basically, it's not ridiculous or disgusting or outrageous or whatever for a man/woman to expect sex in a relationship.

basically what ebony said

lol awww catfriends and horsefriends ^_^

Hmm, idk. I don't think it's fair the expect sex out of a relationship. On what grounds?

I don't know. Maybe I only think this because i'm not/haven't ever been in the situation.

Imo, you can't really expect sex from someone, the same way you can't expect someone to change just because you don't like how they are.
I think it's sort of a similar thing. You expect someone to be a certain way, and if they're not, are you going to make them change? And if you apply that to the topic at hand, if you expect someone to sleep with you because you're in a relationship, and they're not, are you going to force them?

And you can't force anyone to do anything, which is why you'd end a relationship for that very reason if sex is important to someone

 

[Ivorytw]

I think a lot of you are forgetting just how pertinent a physical relationship is to the success of your relationship.

Sure it's not the be all and end all but it is the thing that unifies you as a couple. And if you go into a relationship expecting sex that is absolutely fine, it's also absolutely fine for your partner to not put out. But you should not be judged for expecting that physical relationship and breaking up consequently if those needs are not being fulfilled.

 

[Shadowdude]

Imo, you can't really expect sex from someone, the same way you can't expect someone to change just because you don't like how they are.

obviously you've never heard of fuckbuddies

 

[IamBread]

AHAHAH. HIGH FIVE SISTER!

I am dead serious in saying this... but imo, sex is pretty gross. I don't know. That's just my opinion.

/virgin5eva

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*High fives*
Virgin4lyf

 

[ZombieApocalypse]

Someone called me a prune because of what I wrote

 

[pony_magician]

lol awww catfriends and horsefriends ^_^

Hmm, idk. I don't think it's fair the expect sex out of a relationship. On what grounds?

I don't know. Maybe I only think this because i'm not/haven't ever been in the situation.

Imo, you can't really expect sex from someone, the same way you can't expect someone to change just because you don't like how they are.
I think it's sort of a similar thing. You expect someone to be a certain way, and if they're not, are you going to make them change? And if you apply that to the topic at hand, if you expect someone to sleep with you because you're in a relationship, and they're not, are you going to force them?

And you can't force anyone to do anything, which is why you'd end a relationship for that very reason if sex is important to someone

I see what you're saying but you do realise it's just as big a compromise for your significant other to not have sex as it is for you to have sex to please them. Yes, sex is not the only factor in a healthy relationship, I understand that, but again, I don't see how it is unfair for someone to want sex in a relationship. Most people do want sex, which is fine and perfectly normal.

Your last sentence is what I'm saying. It is okay to end a relationship because one party may want sex. I think that's a lot better than forcing or cheating or something.

 

[Riproot]

Someone called me a prune because of what I wrote

slut.

Why were you avoiding that person on the street before?

 

[ZombieApocalypse]

I see what you're saying but you do realise it's just as big a compromise for your significant other to not have sex as it is for you to have sex to please them. Yes, sex is not the only factor in a healthy relationship, I understand that, but again, I don't see how it is unfair for someone to want sex in a relationship. Most people do want sex, which is fine and perfectly normal.

Your last sentence is what I'm saying. It is okay to end a relationship because one party may want sex. I think that's a lot better than forcing or cheating or something.

I completely agree actually.

slut.

Why were you avoiding that person on the street before?

...it's a terribly long story.


tl;dr: Things got awkward because we're no longer friends

 

[Chrissiee]

Someone called me a prune because of what I wrote

prude? why would you be a prune?

 

[Shadowdude]

prude? why would you be a prune?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=prune

no idea.

 

[Chrissiee]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=prune

no idea.

oh makes sense now, i thought of it in terms of wrinkly and sour?

 

[kaz1]

Someone called me a prune because of what I wrote

calling people prunes is an insult nowadays???

 

[Shadowdude]

oh makes sense now, i thought of it in terms of wrinkly and sour?

Maybe. I dunno, I'm thinking she just misspelt 'prude' or something. But 'D' isn't anywhere near 'N' so...

 

[Chrissiee]

Maybe. I dunno, I'm thinking she just misspelt 'prude' or something. But 'D' isn't anywhere near 'N' so...

no on your link it gives the same definition of a prude

 

[Shadowdude]

no on your link it gives the same definition of a prude

Then... hey, you found a synonym! Nice work.