as a guy who is depressed i say zombie omie jay is right, if you want to get over depression you need to make a decision to make a stand for yourself, to put your foot down and decide that you wont take this shit anymore and will begin fighting it instead of just wallowing in self pity. but mr. soldier is also right, this decision isnt an easy one to make, its far harder to try and help yourself in that mental state than to continue beating yourself up constantly, and theres always complicating factors which make things incredibly difficult. there are always complicating factors because the world is not nice and people wont go out of their way to help you. saying 'change or gtfo' is the extent of the help most will give. overall, you don't 'just change', you make the decision to make change a reality and hopefully at the end of a long hard road change finally happens. that road becomes a lot easier if you ask for help, but again its not always an option and if it is, its up to you if you want to take it.