I should have phrased this better.
what I'm saying is, that because I'm a Muslim, I believe in the whole of the Quran, and if such a statement is written there, then I have to believe in it too.
However, being a person who was born and raised in a Western country, in a Western paradigm, of course I am not ok with such a thing. I have been stating the arguments for why this is acceptable in Islam.
the great thing about Islam is that it is flexible. While men may have that right, women have the right to lay conditions on their marriage contract.
So myself personally, I'd put a clause in the marriage contract along the lines of
"if the aforementioned dared to lay a finger on me with intent of violence, i demand an immediate divorce."
or something like that.