should i talk to him about it? (1 Viewer)

[CoffeeBeans]

Thanks for reading…

This is the situation...


I was looking through some old received files, and found an old video that a ex boyfriend made for me.. about 2years ago… its just him saying "i love you" to the camera and some othe mushy talk… neways..

My now current bf, who came ova later that day, found this video in the "currently viewed files" the of Wmedia player... he didn’t say anything...

Its been threes days since that happened. There doesn’t seem to be any awkwardness between us...

But do u think i should talk to him about it. Just in case? Or pretend it didn’t happen?

 

[Dreamerish*~]

You're thinking too much.

He hasn't mentioned it, appeared distant, or giving you suspicious looks - he didn't even casually ask about it. It just shows that he doesn't care.

Anyway, it's not a relationship-threatening situation. It doesn't make much of a difference whether or not you tell him. You choose.

 

[CoffeeBeans]

im just worried that hes trying to not think about it, bc he doesnt want to bring up the situation... he has a tendency to hide feelings >_<

 

[Dreamerish*~]

im just worried that hes trying to not think about it, bc he doesnt want to bring up the situation... he has a tendency to hide feelings >_<

Then tell him.

He might not believe your story about randomly going through old files. It's just a case of both him and the video being at the wrong place at the wrong time.

 

[ioniser]

wel then in that case of course talk to nim , remember guys don't like to expose their feelings its unnatural for us guys to do so, unless your that deep in a relationship with him

 

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why was he using Wmedia in the first place

 

[Alimoe_KG]

Next time in conversation, find an opportunity to bring up this ex-bf and bag him out in front of your current bf and describe how much better the current one is.
That'll put him at ease.

Airness and his bad advice rox your sox.

 

[iamsickofyear12]

If he doesn't seem any different then he doesn't care and you don't need to talk to him about it.

 

[MiuMiu]

When I find things to do with my bf's ex it hurts a lot and I generally don't say anything.

He might not care, but he could also be quite hurt.....talk to him about it and delete it off your computer...why have you kept it?

 

[bscienceboi]

Situation: Talking to your current bf/gf about past relationships.

(I read this somewhere; SUnday Magazine I think it was)

The best way is to mention it, do not go into detail, do not express how you feel aout your ex and quickly change the subject.

 

[repz]

i agree wit airness, do something that would just boost his ego, he probably deosnt need it. but its sure nice to recieve a compliment from that someone special.

 

[^CoSMic DoRiS^^]

eeep...i would talk to him about it...and perhaps get rid of the video/any thing else your bf might find. just in case.

 

[loquasagacious]

If your bf hasn't changed at all then don't mention it at all, if he doesn't care and you mention it you're sending him the message that he should care that he does have something to worry about......

Then say a couple of weeks down the track as convienient mention your ex in a social setting with your bf eg tell an old funny story then after the laughter has died down hug your bf and tell him that he's way better or you wouldn't be with him at all.

 

[santaslayer]

I'd be cut.

 

[CoffeeBeans]

why was he using Wmedia in the first place

looking for music files

 

[CoffeeBeans]

Next time in conversation, find an opportunity to bring up this ex-bf and bag him out in front of your current bf and describe how much better the current one is.
That'll put him at ease.

Airness and his bad advice rox your sox.

ill try tat =]

If your bf hasn't changed at all then don't mention it at all, if he doesn't care and you mention it you're sending him the message that he should care that he does have something to worry about......

Then say a couple of weeks down the track as convienient mention your ex in a social setting with your bf eg tell an old funny story then after the laughter has died down hug your bf and tell him that he's way better or you wouldn't be with him at all.

that too...









thanks heaps all.. ^_____^